A Fixture No Longer

FOR three long decades, Judith Rodgers lived in a one-bedroom rent-stabilized apartment on West 86th Street. All around her, life moved on.

She first shared the space with a roommate, then assumed the lease and lived there with a husband, and finally remained with three sons after she and her husband split.

Then came the letter from the landlord that changed her life: an offer for a buyout. Increasingly discontent about the stagnation engendered by inhabiting a cramped, miserable apartment, she grabbed the opportunity.

Ms. Rodgers, who had moved to New York in 1977 after graduating from the University of Pennsylvania, had found the place through a roommate agency. She had the living room; her roommate had the bedroom.

The roommate, divorced, had lived there during her own failed marriage. "She said, ‘I need a new start; I lived here with unhappy memories, and it's yours,' " Ms. Rodgers said. "Those were the days when people felt free to give up apartments." The monthly rent was 2.

When the building became a co-op in 1981, Ms. Rodgers declined the chance to buy it for ,000. She didn't have the money. Besides, it was so early in the co-op movement that she barely understood what one was.

She soon met her future husband on a blind date, and he joined her in the one-bedroom. With one son, they were fine. With two, they began feeling the pinch. With three, they started hunting for a bigger place to buy. They couldn't commit, though they considered several rambling Upper West Side co-ops. "The inability to buy was symptomatic of other problems in the marriage," Ms. Rodgers said. She and her husband split in 1999.

She was eager to flee the apartment, which was not just crowded but falling apart. She had become a fixture in the neighborhood, always pushing a baby stroller, drinking coffee at Starbucks, dining at Docks Oyster Bar or rushing to move her car.

Her youngest sons, Matthew Rosenthal, now 17, and Gideon Rosenthal, now 13, slept on bunk beds in the dining room. Daniel Rosenthal, 21, now a senior at McGill University, had half the living room. The only counter space was atop the dishwasher. Bicycles and sports gear were stuffed where they fit. The windows wouldn't close. "It needed structural change down to the very bones of the place," Ms. Rodgers said. "I was becoming more and more aware of something grievously wrong. There was a rank unhappiness about the apartment."

Her distaste spilled over into a dislike of the neighborhood, which seemed overrated and expensive. She wanted anonymity. She wanted normalcy.

The letter that rescued her arrived a year ago. With just a few unsold units remaining, the landlord was offering a buyout.

"I had no idea what was holding me to the Upper West Side, and if I didn't have an answer to that question, it was worth re-evaluating my entire life," Ms. Rodgers said. The cheap rent, now around ,200, was no longer sufficient justification.

She asked her friend Ariela Heilman what to do. No question she should take the buyout, said Ms. Heilman, the owner of Ariela Heilman Real Estate. "I said, you have one shot at this and want to get everything you can to allow you to move on and have options."

So Ms. Rodgers, 55, hired a lawyer to negotiate the buyout, giving her more than enough for a down payment, though she declined to say how much.

The hunt began at a prewar condominium building in Washington Heights, where a 0,000 three-bedroom was for sale. Ms. Rodgers found the neighborhood noisy and gritty. "Maybe I had put in enough time in the city," she said. "I didn't need that city buzz."

Riverdale, in the Bronx, seemed suitably tranquil. One co-op building on 238th Street had two lovely four-bedroom sponsor units available. They were unaffordable - well into the 0,000 range. But Ms. Rodgers now knew there were real possibilities. "I was beginning to feel confident," she said. "I was having fun."

A well-kept co-op building near 254th Street had two similar units available, one a sponsor unit and each with three bedrooms, two bathrooms and a terrace.

Because Ms. Rodgers has a freelance income - from writing, editing and tutoring - Ms. Heilman suggested she go for the sponsor unit, thereby avoiding the need for co-op board approval. Ms. Rodgers hoped to buy it for 5,000, but negotiations stalled when the sponsor requested 0,000.

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